How to control kid’s aggression?

First & foremost, I must mention here that I am neither a doctor nor any counsellor but an individual having my own views on this topic “How to control kid’s aggression?” which may make sense for some & may be senseless to others.

Anyways, now let’s get back to the topic.

Have you ever experienced:

• Your kids shouting back at you
• Your kids are back answering you
• Your kids using abusive language with others
• Your kids fighting with other kids (on a regular basis)
• Complaints from teachers about your kids (on a regular basis)

Probably, you may have experienced one or the other point mentioned above. These days kids are becoming very aggressive. Other day I read an article “Angry Haryana Youth Pushes Luxury BMW in River After Father Denies His New Jaguar Car Request”. We come up to many such articles/news these days regarding kids aggression. Most of the time, kids get this aggression from us only, what we show them, what we do in front of them, how we shout at others on road, how we fight with our spouse, we abuse people in front of them, they learn from our rude behaviour.

Apart from that, they are learning this aggression from TV, movies, dirty songs, mobiles, apps, laptops, their friends, relationships, broken hearts etc. These days lyrics of songs are so bad (like dad mummy hain nahi ghar pe), but still we also dance to these catchy numbers. Kids are learning from them too.

What can we do to control this aggression?

Firstly, if we need our kids to become good human beings, we should work on ourselves being a good human being, we need to control our anger, have patience, manage our own stress, we should become good example in front of our kids, be their friend, be their heroes.

Secondly, just like how we are teaching our kids about good touch & bad touch nowadays, we need to teach them how to control anger, have patience, not to give them exams/marks burden, befriend with them, how to come out of broken heart or bad relationships, respect others, teach them not to make fun of poor, handicaps, elderly people, different gender or caste people etc.

Thirdly, we need to monitor / restrict their access to gadgets. We always say present generation is spoilt due to mobiles, laptops & other gadgets. But THINK, who gives them these gadgets. We do. If we are busy with something & our kids come to us, we just give them mobiles & say, “mujhe tang na kar, ja mobile pe khel”. We all know Internet has both good information as well as bad information. So let them have restricted usage. Monitor what they are accessing over the internet.

Finally, love them, spare some time to be with them without our mobiles, TVs or laptops. Talk to them, play with them, praise them.

If we need our kids’ future to be bright, we need to work on their present!

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